Hey gang! Happy new year and happy Easter to y’all! This blog post has nearly taken me a month to write! It’s rather long, but please bear with me. As you may or may not know I gave birth to my son just before Christmas. I’ve been pretty much consumed with taking care of my newborn. I have however discovered and done some pretty awesome things in the last few months and I’m going to share them with you in this update.
December to remember
After being diagnosed with gestational diabetes, I was told I would probably have to be induced. After consulting Google, some midwives and few message boards on various baby websites, I decided that spontaneous labour would be better than induction. I started bouncing on that birthing ball like my life depended on it, Quenched my thirst with raspberry leaf tea and snacked on pineapples. I even had a sweep…spontaneous labour didn’t happen for me
Monday 18th December came and I went to the hospital. I was super happy as I truly believed I would have my baby in my arms that evening. What a stupid thought! My experience of induction wasn’t a pleasant one. Going to go slightly off topic, but one born every minute helped me get my head in the zone whilst pregnant. In one particular episode, a midwife made a comment of women in labour leaving their dignity at the hospital door and picking it up on the way out. She wasn’t wrong, I tell you! I was violated in ways I do not care to discuss lol.
Fast forward to the good bit…labour lol. The beginning was fine, I didn’t even realise my labour had started. The midwives were commenting on how calm I was. They even said it was hard to believe I was actually in labour. My birth plan detailed what I wanted in terms of pain relief. I was adamant about not having an epidural. I sat on a birthing ball, rolling in time to my labour play list. Don’t judge me for some of my musical choices!
As the pain intensified I started throwing up and ended up on a drip. At this stage I was uncomfortable. Hours went by and the labour didn’t really progress. When my waters were broken the party well and truly started! I was in so much pain it was ridiculous. My temperament changed. It was like a switch I couldn’t control. It was weird as I was still in control but in my own little labour bubble. I blocked everyone out and just focused on trying to get the baby out. My midwives at Newham General were nothing short of brilliant. I ended up not having any pain relief at all. Our little boy arrived 4 hours after my waters were broken. I don’t think he appreciated being forced to come out before time, so he peed on me twice to let me know how he felt lol.
Motherhood so far, this time round has been rather different. I guess a 17 year age gap doesn’t help! My support network is amazing and I love them all.
Enough of the baby stuff for now!
January- First independent adult outing…yay!!
Disclaimer: I love my kids dearly but I just need a break from time to time 🙂
Date night!! I can’t emphasise how important date night is for couples. It’s an opportunity to invest in one another. I feel this is of even greater importance when have children. We can easily get caught up in the day to day of being parents. So much so we forget to take care of our relationships and they slowly but surely end up on the back burner.
My wonderful hubby bought us tickets to see Chris Rock at the O2. I had never seen a show at the o2 Arena so this only enhanced the experience. Concert attendees placed their mobile phones in pouches sealed with shoplifting prevention tags. The O2 arena was a mobile free zone that night. It was actually rather refreshing to enjoy a show that wasn’t clouded with arms and glaring screens.
The supporting acts were wicked! I laughed so much, I was reminded why pelvic floor exercises form part of postnatal recovery! Chris Rock is a great comedian, but he does drop quite a few F bombs though! I don’t think there was a moment we weren’t laughing.
The one thing I never expected to pick up from a comedy show was marriage advice. Chris Rock’s marriage broke down leading to divorce. When he mentioned it in his stand up, some people started to cheer. the cheering wasn’t sinister in anyway, but you know some people are happy when they divorce. Whilst the cheering was ongoing, Rock said something along the lines of ‘don’t cheer, It was horrible’. For me, in that moment the show took a somewhat serious turn.
There were still hilarious moments don’t get me wrong, but jokes formed part of a deeper message. He claimed he was a horrible husband because he was selfish…wowwwww! I was stunned, not by his statement but by his honesty. I honestly felt like I saw vulnerability and that made me like him even more! He said everything was all about him and it made him arrogant (I’m paraphrasing here…I don’t know script!)
He likened his relationship to being in a being in a band. We cant always be the lead singer, sometimes we need to be in the background shaking our tambourine. Both roles are equally important, there has to be balance and a bit of give and take. Sometimes you just need to stand at the back and shake your proverbial tambourine!
February- most wonderful time of the year!
Yes it is! Why? It’s my birth month! Aside from this fabulous occasion, 3 significant things happened during this month. Black Panther, Kendrick Lamar concert and the fact I started fitness classes.
Black Panther was an amazing movie. You will know from my Instagram, that we love all things Marvel in our household. Even the baby doesn’t have a choice! This film was so big, my social media feeds were flooded, with nothing but praise for the movie. Okay,there were a few negative comments, but everyone is entitled to their opinion, even if it’s wrong…jokes!! Imagine, it’s been over a month and the film is still raking it in the at the box office. The media reported, just this week that it is the highest grossing superhero movie everrrrrrrr!
It was great to see an African nation portrayed in a positive light. Obviously, the cast made the movie, super special for my family and I. For young black people, seeing people that look like them on the big screen is inspiring.
My friends and family know I like to eat. When it comes to exercise, I don’t like it as much! I recently reactivated my Facebook account after a year. In light of recent Cambridge Analytica events, I should have stayed off. However, If I had stayed off, I never would have discovered Hex Mums. It’s a fitness class, held in John Lewis, Westfield Stratford City. I love this class because I can take the baby with me. He can just lie and play on the mat or he can be my weight when I’m doing squats. It’s nice to get out and meet other mums and have adult conversations! It’s a breastfeeding friendly environment too! I aim to go every week but that doesn’t always work out (no pun intended)
Last but not least, Kendrick Lamar aka Kung Fu Kenny. This guy knows how to put on a show. It wasn’t even a concert, it was art. I know that probably sounds pretentious, but it really was a sight to behold. The production was awesome, visually…my goodness I could go on! This guy gives me hope that hip hop can be great again. If you grew up in the 80’s and 90’s you know what I’m talking about. Music with messages, music that actually says something meaningful. The show was high energy and consistently brilliant. Would I see him in concert again? Most certainly! Kendrick Lamar said he would like to be a villain in the next Black Panther movie. Maybe he could play Black Turtle. If you know, you know
Hope you have enjoyed catching up with me. Promise not to leave it so long next time xx